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1 - When they no longer want sex or makes excuses
to not have sex.
2 - When they will not allow you access to their
computer or they suddenly shut down the computer when you
walk into the room. They may password protect their laptop
or computer to keep out suspicious eyes. Or they stay up to
"work" or "play a game" on the computer after you go to bed.
Excessive internet usage, especially late at night, is a red
flag.
3 - When they begin to put distance between you or
show a lack of interest in what has been the routine with
few, if any, excuses for the change in their behavior.
4 - When they suddenly have to work late and have all
kinds of new obligations that take them away from home
repeatedly or for long periods of time. Or. . . they tell
you they are working longer hours and discontinue allowing
you to view their paycheck or pay stubs.
5 - If
your loved one works with people, such as at a bar or
restaurant especially as a waitress or bartender they might
suddenly tell you not to visit them at work. This
usually means they are hiding something at their workplace
whether it be with a co-worker or a regular customer such as
at a bar.
6 - When they suddenly need a cell phone or pager and
you are discouraged from ever looking at it or using it.
They also may make certain their cell phone or pager cannot
be answered by you by hiding it or taking it with them
wherever they go. They are secretive about their cell phone
or pager bill and pay it themselves when you have always
paid the bill in the past.
7 - When they arrive home smelling faintly of
perfume/cologne or another person's body.
8 - When they arrive home and head straight into the
shower or bath.
9 - When they have lipstick or strange hairs on their
clothing or in the car. Finding strange phone numbers,
receipts or condoms can also be clues.
10 - When they suddenly begin to treat you extremely
nice; more so than usual.
11 - When they begin to make "kinky" requests or
suggest wildly erotic play during sex including things you
have never done before. They may also show an increased
interest in sex or sexual things, including porn.
12 - When they talk to you they treat you abusively
or with disdain, disrespect or excessive sarcasm. They may
also demonstrate an unexplained aloofness or indifference in
the relationship. Or. . . they may begin to find fault in
everything you do in an attempt to justify their affair.
13 - Her: When she gets spiffed up and dresses
provocative to "go grocery shopping" or to "get her hair
done." She may also show up with a sudden change of hair
style. Him: When he showers, shaves (cologne, deodorant,
etc.) and dresses up more than usual to "go out with his
buddies" or to "go fishing."
14 - When they break their established routine at
work and home for no apparent or logical reason.
15 - When they become suddenly forgetful and you have
to tell him/her everything several times; their thoughts are
obviously elsewhere.
16 - When they are always tired or demonstrate a
noticeable lack of energy or interest in the relationship.
17 - When they begin to intentionally look at or
flirt with the opposite sex when in the past, this is
something they would not have done.
18 - When you notice that they are reluctant to kiss
you or accept your affection.
19 - When they ignore or criticize your affections
and thoughtful ways. Example : "Why are you so luvy
duvy? I'm just not like that."
20 - When your phone bill shows an increase in
unexplained toll or long distance charges. Often when a
partner is acting too close or flirting with a best friend
of the opposite sex, you will find their phone number listed
excessively.
21 - When the passenger seat in the car has been
changed and is not in the usual position or the mileage on
the car is more than usual. Also increased gas purchases
that are inconsistent with the amount of miles on the car.
22 - When they begin to keep a change of clothes
hidden in the trunk of the car or an unusual amount of
clothes changes at the gym.
23 - When you notice credit card charges for gifts
(such as florist or jewelry) that you didn't receive.
24 - When they begin to make sudden and excessive
purchases of clothes or an unexplained change in clothing
style. Beginning to purchase sexy underwear or lingerie may
be a clue.
25 - When you notice an increase in ATM withdrawals.
Cheating costs money! To play you must pay!
26 - When you notice that your partner loses their
ability and desire to show the children the attention they
need or a lack of desire to do any fix-ups around the house,
e.g., lawn care, painting, cleaning the garage, house
repairs, etc. They might turn this around on you at
the same time and accuse you of never doing anything or
treating the child/children badly.
27 - When you notice an increased attention to losing
weight or paying more attention to their appearance.
28 - When they begin to volunteer to go to the post
office, rushes to check the mail before you do or opens up a
new P.O. box perhaps without even telling you.
29 - When your partner shows up without their wedding
ring or suddenly stops wearing it and makes lame excuses as
to why. This also goes for jewelry you might have
purchased for them and you catch them not wearing it when
they go out when usually they wear it at all times.
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- When they get mysterious phone calls or when they hurry to
answer the phone, leave the room to talk on the phone and
when you ask who called, they say, "No one", "Wrong number",
or "Why do you care?"
31 - Simple trips, such as to the grocery store or
bank, take hours rather than the time it should take.
32 - Your loved one suddenly deletes all emails from the
computer where as they used to accumulate. Same goes
for calls on the cell phone or caller ID.
33 - Your
loved one seems to pick fights or finds reasons to fight
only to stomp out of the house and away from you.
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- You find a diaphragm, condom, birth control, etc.,
however, you have had either a vasectomy or she has had a
tubal ligation.
