What is cheating?

Having sex with someone other than your partner is obviously CHEATING!  Now, what about all the other things other than sex?

In all relationships this is where couples vary from one to the other.  It is also where one partner in the relationship might vary in thinking from the other.

The most common definition of cheating used today is as follows - 'if you do something that you don't want your partner to know about and do not tell them - its all about integrity and trust'.  This definition is broad in a sense, however, if you keep it to the subject you will understand.

• Example :  Your wife goes out on a night on the town with her friends.  While she is out she is also talking, flirting, etc with other men.  Obviously, your wife knows that you will be upset about this and does not tell you.  She did not have sex with these men, she did not exchange numbers, anything.

The above example shows where people can vary in their thinking.  For some this would be okay.  Heck, she didn't do anything wrong she was just having fun.  Or did she do something wrong?

This is where our definition comes into play.  If you partner has done something, but doesn't want you to know or tells the story in a way other than it happened then THEY ALSO KNOW that what they did was wrong and you would be upset.  They knew before it happened, while it happened, and after it happened their partner would not be happy about the situation they have put themselves into and what conspired out of it - THEY ARE CHEATING.

WHO CHEATS?

People with low self-esteem often cheat.  People with lack of integrity often cheat.  Some are even pre-disposed to cheat.  The most common reason however is that their needs are not being met at home.  Whether this means they are not getting enough attention, love, respect, money, anything they are usually missing something at home should they not fall into the categories above.

WHAT ARE THEIR NEEDS?

The three most primary needs for a woman are affection, understanding and, most of all, respect. A man's three most basic needs are appreciation, acceptance and trust. Love is a given for both man and woman or else their would be no true relationship.  When these needs are not fulfilled a cheater will often look elsewhere for those needs and someone who can give them.

BEWARE OF ACCUSATIONS!

So you think your loved one is cheating and now you are ready to find out.  STOP!  Do you really think something is going on or is it just your insecurities that are bringing doubts into your head?

When true love has been found, as with anything, the biggest fear more often than not is losing that love you have found.  This fear brings upon jealously which is a cry for more love from your partner.  It is within anyone's right to request more love when self doubt arises, however, jealously is counterproductive in the request and more often than not makes thing worse and worse.

Jealously is without a doubt a sure fire way to drive away the very person you love the most and fear of losing.

WHAT NOW?

A betrayal of the heart is simply devastating.  Unfortunately, usually the one who cares the most about the person and relationship is the same one who has been cheated on.  Heck, if you love someone with all your heart then you simply WON"T CHEAT, right?

Due to this, an affair makes honesty simply impossible coming from your partner and as more things arise the number one factor of a loving relationship, TRUST, is broken usually forever.  Once the trust between you and your loved one has been broken it is extremely hard to get that feeling of trust back if ever.

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